How do you hate your mother?

I received a helpful critique from a gentleman after the homily.
He said I posed the question, but failed to answer it.
That was helpful, because I think he's right.
I didn't address fully what Jesus meant by the particular word "hate."
I think I moved too quickly from that to the main point of my homily.
Either that or I gave too much emphasis to the word, built it up too much and transitioned away from it to a more important point without resolving the problem.

Anyway.

I didn't really preach on the 'hate' we're supposed to have so much as our innate ability to give everything away for our pursuit of holiness, happiness.